How to Last Longer in Bed?
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Stop thinking intercourse is for ejaculation.
We usually masturbate with one goal in mind: ejaculation. We jerk off to cum. And that’s as it should be. Ejaculation is the release valve of sexual energy for men. And for most men, masturbation is the main form of release.
During our masturbatory fantasies, we dream of having a woman with us so she can be the one to make us ejaculate, instead of our all-too-familiar right hand.
But to assume that the reason we have intercourse with women is also to ejaculate, is a fundamental error of Biblical proportions!
Whether you are aware of this belief or not, if your intention is to use intercourse as a means of ejaculation, you have set yourself on a path to premature ejaculation before you have even taken off your shirt.
Let me be clear: Ejaculation is not the goal of sexual intercourse.
Many of us think, “I can jerk off, or I can have sex with a woman and ejaculate that way.” This puts you at a major disadvantage when having sex with women, as the two are NOT equal.
Sexual intercourse with a woman is not an alternate form of masturbation. And the goal of sexual intercourse is certainly not ejaculation. If it were, let’s face it: You are an expert. So why are you on this site looking for ways to stop yourself from having fast ejaculations?
How does this belief contribute to premature ejaculation?
If ejaculation is all you are thinking about as you embark upon an evening of sexual bliss, then your evening will be a very short one indeed.
When you say you want to last longer in bed, how long would you like to last? Do you want to last 10 minutes? 15? Do you want to make it to the Magical 20-Minute Mark and then let ‘er rip?
I can tell you with complete certainty that once your penis enters of her vagina, your desired length of time for intercourse will quickly drop from 20 minutes, to a newly-revised 30 seconds! Every cell in your body and fibre of your being will be screaming out in unison, pleading with you to give in to the Siren call of ejaculation.
You need to shift your goals when having sex.
If you believe that intercourse always ends with ejaculation, you are not going to be able to beat premature ejaculation.
If your plan – conscious or not – is to ejaculate during the first round of intercourse you have that night, using the one and only condom you have with you, then you are already on a path to a fast ejaculation.
If you believe that 3-7 minutes of intercourse is normal, right, and good, then you are planning your own quick release, and her displeasure.
If you think women will be satisfied after 3-7 minutes of intercourse, then you lack a fundamental understanding about female sexuality. For 2/3 of all women, intercourse alone is not a reliable means of orgasm. And most certainly not within 3-7 minutes.
If you think she will have an orgasm during intercourse, and you are waiting for her to do so before you ejaculate, then you are setting yourself up for a very unpleasant sexual experience.
Nothing inhibits an orgasm more than the pressure to have one.
Many of us reason it this way: “If I can make her cum, then I can ejaculate.” You then try to make her cum as quickly as possible, so that you can ejaculate as quickly as possible.
Because that is why you are having sex.
The Secret Recipe For Orgasm Is…
When you let go of ejaculation as your goal of sex, orgasm is no longer the focus of sex. Not yours, not hers. You are not begging her to cum… so that you can too. You are not considering ejaculating before the Magical 20-Minute Mark. In fact what you are clearly and consciously planning is to have sex all night long, and not ejaculate until the sun comes up. And then possibly a little longer.
By putting orgasm to the side, where it belongs, you liberate yourself to focus on the true goal of sex. Instead of chasing orgasms, your new mission is to join forces to create a sexually charged environment where you are both free to express your authentic sexual desires in the moment, without inhibition.
Creating this kind of sex-positive environment, where you both feel uninhibited, safe, and free to express your authentic sexual desires without fear or self-consciousness, just so happens to be the recipe for creating orgasms.
Once you learn to leave ejaculation out of your sexual equation, your focus shifts to building the kind of sexual energy levels which lead you directly to experiencing non-ejaculatory orgasms (NEO). The sexual pleasure you experience beyond the Magical 20-Minute Mark far, far exceeds the tiny, ephemeral, blip of sensation which ejaculation offers.
Join The 5% Club of Men Who Can Experience Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms
The term Post-Ejaculatory Man to refers to the men who have given up the paltry experience of ejaculation, in exchange for the enormous amount of pleasure they and their partners experience beyond its capacity.
Post-ejaculatory refers to the pleasures which can only be reached once ejaculation is left far behind.
The Post-Ejaculatory Man cums a lot during sex, but he rarely ejaculates.
Remember: Orgasm is not the goal of sex. Orgasm is the byproduct of good sex. But it is not the prime objective.
Start your ejaculation control training program now. Discover the hidden pleasure which sex and sexual intercourse with women can lead to. Once you stop using them as a way to ejaculate.
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